Dating Tips for Men Archives
Online Flirting – A New Art Form
Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting. Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT. If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”. So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language? All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right?
1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful.
2. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.
3. 3. Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Do Not be self depreciating.
4. Listen…listen….listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders!
5. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.
6. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.
Don’t try to go too fast. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.
Advice on Choosing a Place for that First Face to Face Date
A first date is always an exciting event and finding the right place for a first date can make all the difference. For some people, a cozy bar might be the place for a first date, while for others, a fine restaurant is the place to go. The perfect place for the first dinner, of course, always depends on the taste and likes of the participants, but there a few common rules that could help any first date to become a success.
Some of the first tips that are good advice when choosing that first place for a first face to face date is to choose a setting that makes both participants feel comfortable and is more low key. Choosing a high style restaurant where etiquette is on the order every minute of the dinner and clothes need to be stylish in and expensive might be bad. One might not feel good in his or her skin and the date might feel very stiff and awkward. Generally, an informal setting is what should be chosen and the best way to choose is by discussing the issue with the partner. If both partners like the place, then both partners might feel more comfortable. Sometimes a first face to face date is best set in a local coffee shop, a very informal, everyday location that talking while sitting in a comfy chair by a fireplace makes it a lot easier. Discussing and choosing a place together also prevents any problems that one might have with the food offered in the place or the locality or even the people that attend.
Another good tip for a first date is to stay clear of busy, buzzing and loud places. The more people, the bigger the event or the louder the place, the less chance to talk and get known to the other one. In busy places, actions and things that are happening around them often distract people. It is hard to have a good conversation with so much distraction. The same goes for loud places. If one is not able to hear what the other one said, it will make for a very poor conversation. First dates should be in places that are cozy, comfortable to be in and at a normal or low noise level with the least amount of distractions. Some people prefer a walk in the park; others may prefer a meeting in a coffee shop or over a low key lunch or dinner. By the way, a movie theater makes for a bad first place, since there is almost no time to talk to each other, find out about each other and ultimately to get to know to each other. Even though many people like watching movies, it generally does not even make for a good choice on date night for couples that have been together for a while out of the similar reasons.
Also, a good tip is to choose locations that have a positive influence on both partners. If the place chosen has memories of old relationships or other bad memories, the mood of the conversation and of the whole night can ruin a start to a great new relationship. Not only will it add to the first impression when the mood of a person is down. Even if it is not quite obvious, the other will pick up the mood at some point during that first date and who wants his or her first date ruined by an old memory?
Whichever place will be chosen for a first date, when following a few simple rules, the first date might be a successful one and a long-lasting relationship can be established.
How To Be a Hero To Your GirlFriend
How to feel confident on your first date
We all want to make the right impression on our first dates – after all, aren’t we all aspiring for date number 2 – so feeling confident in your body and your appearance is important.
However for many of you, once you have secured this first date, fear and doubt begins to set in. You begin to question yourself, your appearance and why they like you, and ultimately arrive at your date feeling insecure about the future.
To help you experience the confidence you deserve, below we have listed our top 5 tips to feeling great, so you can approach your date rest assured that you will experience success.
1. Be relaxed
It is only natural to feel nervous on a date. It is your first real chance to get to know one another, and of course you want them to like you.
To help control your nerves just take a few deep breaths, and try to pretend that you are with your friends. By doing so you will begin to feel calm and relaxed, and conversation will come more easily.
If you are often prone to nerves though, try thinking of different topics you can talk about prior to going on your date. By practising your answers before you meet, you can feel confident that you won’t make any mistakes in your answers, and will instantly put your date at ease.
Simply pick subjects which you can both easily talk about and have fun!
2. Be confident
Confidence is simply a state of mind; of believing that everything is going to be okay and putting your thoughts into action.
So take a deep breath and say to yourself ‘this date is going to be a success; this date is going to be a success; this date is going to be a success’. With this mantra always on hand to guide you, all this positive thinking will eventually leak into your actions and leave you feeling confident about your date.
3. Act interested
It is easy to let our nerves get the better of us on a date. But by making sure that you keep the conversation moving; the questions flowing and avoid periods of silence; this banter will eventually begin to feel natural and you will both find yourselves feeling at ease with one another.
Remember, they are probably just as nervous as you, so act interested and the rest will naturally follow.
4. Be who you want to be
We have all felt self-conscious about our bodies at some point on our dates. From feeling overly aware of the excess lbs around our stomachs and thighs, to feeling uncomfortable in the way our clothes fit; our lack of confidence can often translate into the way we present ourselves on our dates.
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5. Be Yourself
Last of all, just be yourself. There is no point trying to be someone you’re not. This will only go on to work against you later, and will cause you to make mistakes
Simply be yourself and remember that your date said yes to the idea of dating the real you, not a fictional character.
So give these tips a try and begin feeling the difference of a happier, more confident you.