MEN ANSWER PLEASE: If I joined an online dating site and I go out with a man after one date, now what?
Jan.28, 2010 in
Online Dating FAQ
city girl asked:
Out of the dating scene for about 5 years and now I am online and wish to have a serious relationship and meet marriage minded men which is in my profiel. I have met a couple of nice men and on the 2-3rd dates at this point. Problem: They may be girl shopping and I do not know how many women they are pursuing onthe internet or dating. HOW CAN I Develop this. I am not getting many calls in between with Hello’s, they rarely send me emails to say hi. (I also don’t believe in building a relationship sending emails). They are not trying to build a personal relationship. I see each one maybe 1 time a week and I can’t seem to get the ones I like to respond much if I call them and have to leave a voice mail. Maybe 1 or 2 days they call back. How do you get the distraction of new girls online to be less important than me and our fun times on the dates we have…ALSO when are we expected to sleep together, if we are both online? Dont know how to deal with this as it is not one but all my dates.
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Out of the dating scene for about 5 years and now I am online and wish to have a serious relationship and meet marriage minded men which is in my profiel. I have met a couple of nice men and on the 2-3rd dates at this point. Problem: They may be girl shopping and I do not know how many women they are pursuing onthe internet or dating. HOW CAN I Develop this. I am not getting many calls in between with Hello’s, they rarely send me emails to say hi. (I also don’t believe in building a relationship sending emails). They are not trying to build a personal relationship. I see each one maybe 1 time a week and I can’t seem to get the ones I like to respond much if I call them and have to leave a voice mail. Maybe 1 or 2 days they call back. How do you get the distraction of new girls online to be less important than me and our fun times on the dates we have…ALSO when are we expected to sleep together, if we are both online? Dont know how to deal with this as it is not one but all my dates.
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Originally posted 2007-12-23 14:34:04. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
December 26th, 2007 at 4:41 am
Dont date online, nice men dont put them selves on the interent.
December 29th, 2007 at 1:31 am
Here is the deal. When online people are selective. Why not… They start of slow and play the field deciding on which person they feel would be the best match. Numerous email are sent back and forth to determine this. I would also lik to think they would be calling one another. So it is going to take a bit more time in general. As far as sleeping with them that all depends on when you feel comfortable with it and you should not feel pressured.
Hope that helps
December 31st, 2007 at 11:16 pm
You are fortunate to realize this early that many people are date shopping on the internet. To meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with takes time. I would recommend going out and doing what you like to do and take an evening class to discover an new skill or hobby. Also friends and family know you best so meeting people this way works also. The point is if you are happy on your own, meeting someone special will come along in time.
I am facing the same situation after being married for many years and it is scary. I know I have to enjoy time on my own first before meeting someone and this can’t be rushed.
Good luck on your man hunt.