Dating Asians
Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010 at
10:19 am
Product Description”Dating Asians” is the bible for dating Asians successfully. Asians are very different from Occidentals! And there are different types of Asians based on where they were born and raised. Each Asian group will have their own cultural traits and perspective on life. However, after reading this book, you will find that most Asians can actually be quite predictable. “Dating Asians” analyzes common misconceptions and offers various ways to impress Asian people so t. . . More >>
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What do ducks have to do with dating Asians? Are you saying Asians are like ducks or Asians eat ducks? Also, who uses the word Occidental anymore?
Rating: 1 / 5
. . . are a traditional Chinese symbol of marital fidelity, companionship and true love, so the cover is meaningful. Get the book, study and learn. (From Old Asia Hand, in and out of Asia for over 40 years with many wonderful relationships to show for it).
Rating: 5 / 5
Being asian myself I am highly insulted by this book! To think there is some mystical book that tells people how they date asians is totaly foolish. Guys, asians are girls just like any other girls and they like the same things. Instead of throwing away your money on this cowpie of a book, buy the girl some flowers. They will go a lot further at winning her heart than anything you will learn from this book.
Rating: 1 / 5
Had I read this book twenty years ago, I might have stayed with my
Japanese fiance. . . I’m a caucasisn male. We just could not overcome our cultural differences.
Dating Asians is full of good advice and it looks at stereotypes in a humorous light. Miss Wang examines questions that most people want answers to but are afraid to ask; and she does it in a very entertaining fashion.
It might make some politically correct types nervous; but that’s too bad.
There really are differences and we need to examine them. If you are
seeking a cross-cultural experience; you need this book!
Rating: 4 / 5
It only takes an hour or so to read this 105-page book. I read the entire thing while riding an exercise at the gym this afternoon. One of my sons has a Chinese American girl friend so this book subject naturally caught my attention.
The book is full of helpful advice for anyone interested in dating Asians–although with most Asians two dates is a serious relationship. Most Asians also won’t put up with a person who is also dating another Asian. They forgive the unfaithful prospect for a date with another non-Asian, but one date with another Asian is the kiss of death for their relationship.
The author defines the six basic types of Asians Americans are likely to come in contact with. They range from Type 1 who would never leave their homeland to Type 6 who are “mixed” Asians that are of mixed race and are the most likely that Americans will meet and will be comfortable with.
The author also defines the eight most likely types of Americans who will date and marry Asians.
The book is in many ways lists of facts about Asians. When an American marries an Asian he or she is also marrying the Asian’s family. Asian families are much closer and important than the relationships that many Americans have with their relatives. Wang conveniently lists typical traits shared by many different nationalities that Westerners group together as “Asians. ” She also lists common “likes” and “dislikes” shared by most Asians and their all-powerful families.
In some ways her chapters are almost like outlines for the material covered. “Some of the Fine Asian Traits: Things Asians Are Good At: Things Asians Suck At: Ways to Impress Asians: Taboos: Where To Meet Asians: Some Cultural Things to Get Used To: What Asians Desire: How Asians Think Vs. What Americans Think Of Relationships: Do Your Homework: Stereotypes” are the main chapter headings. Each chapter has lots of sub-chapters. That outline design makes it easy to quickly find desired items within the book.
Over all much of the information seems common sense and is something that everyone in the world would share. However, there are lots of things that most Asians don’t share with Americans. They hate loafers and stupidity for example. No matter what country they come from they are hard workers, disciplined, worship higher education as the means to advance, and are very family oriented. Since they work so hard, they expect their prospective husbands or wives to also be equally hard working and interested in the same long-term goals. They also expect their prospective mates to be willing to integrate into their extended families. In many cases, they may want to return to their home countries because they miss their own families. Most Asians believe in the “American Dream” that hard work and sacrifice will result in success.
They have found it to be an obtainable fact of life.
Mixed in with this basic summary of Asian Culture are helpful little hints about how to impress your Asian friends. They are not all just common sense and some are very obvious like practicing good manners. She also gives tips about where to meet Asians. For instance, a single American parent with children would be likely to find an unescorted Asian in the same situation visiting a zoo. It’s one of the places that is both fun for children and adults and is at the same time highly educational. She gives many locations were they are likely to find lonely Asians by themselves such as reading in the library or spending the day reading at a comfortable coffee shop. Notice how important reading and learning is in every situation.
The term Asian is actually a westerner’s term and what we call Asians represent a vast number of different nations and different cultures. They are not all exactly alike and in many cases they resent being lumped together or mistaken for a citizen of the wrong nation. There are also major cultural and language differences. For instance there is no Asian word for `Romantic. ”
This is a quick, useful overview of cultural difference between Asians and Americans. Anyone interesting in dating Asians will find it helpful even if it is only an introduction to the subject.
Rating: 4 / 5