How to Survive Your Boyfriend’s Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man without Losing Your Mind

5 Comments

1. Anonymous says:

   December 28, 2009 at 10:22 am

   The entire feel of the book is that the seperated/divorced men are rats and the single women are victims. There may be a word or two that could be useful to some, but the majority of the text leans towards disposing of the relationship, whatever the case may be. What comes accross from the co-author can be summed up with the following: end the relationship, amend the relationship or continue the relationship. Anyone who can choose an ice cream flavor can figure that out all by herself. Save your money.
   Rating: 1 / 5
2. Chell says:

   December 28, 2009 at 10:58 am

   This book is great. Fortunitly, I bought it the day things started to get hairy in my relationship, and it was a LIFESAVER. The humor is great, and you cant beat the honesty. It does seem confusing at first, but that is because you have to choose to move foward with your relationship or stick it out, and they help you to decide that without making the choice for you. You know its a good book when you highlight the key sections and review it later and almost all of the book is highlighted. It also touches on other items like attachement, needy, and a few others that play into meeting a un-divorced man. Kudos to this book!
   Rating: 5 / 5
3. Carolyn Johnson says:

   December 28, 2009 at 1:29 pm

   I highly recommend this book to any woman that is contemplating this roller coaster ride of a relationship.
   Rating: 5 / 5
4. Diane Byram says:

   December 28, 2009 at 2:59 pm

   This is a great book but from personal experience – WAIT TILL THE DIVORCE IS FINALED!!! He will be available to take your relationship to another level. When you are dating a divorcing man or seperated man it is the same as dating a married man. He isn’t available for you and you get the leftover crumbs. He is emotionally wounded and there is a good possibility that he will wound you by the time this drama is all said and done. Love should be wonderful and carefree but when a man has a divorce looming over his head he cannot be that wonderful person. He hasn’t finished ending his previous relationship and there are oftentimes unresolved feelings of some sort. I dated my guy for about a year. He had been seperated from his ex for 2 years so I felt confident that he had done some healing in that time – WRONG. The relationship went from hot to cold to luke warm. . . . he didn’t know what he wanted and he just began to emotionally withdraw. It is painful to go through that. He did nothing for me and everything for his ex. We as women tend to be compassionate, understanding, and helpful sometimes at our own expense. I loved my man dearly but I had finally come to a point in our relationship where I needed his divorce to be DONE. I explained to him that I could no longer see him until his divorce was done. . . . He got upset, stated that I hurt him. . . . I tried to talk to him to get close again but he was bitter, lonely, and hurt. He went out to the bars. . . found another woman. . . . finished his divorce within 6 months of our break and married his new woman 6 months later. . . so a year after he left me he remarried. It hurts. Trust me when I say. . . You DO NOT want to be the rebound or transitional woman. It is far too painful. Just knowing that she has all the good parts about him still hurts. While this book offers many good points. . . the bigger picture is this – Wait till his divorce is done!! Be friends but nothing more as he cannot be anything more to you until he has completed and ended that part of his life. Good Luck
   Rating: 4 / 5
5. Romantic heart says:

   December 28, 2009 at 3:27 pm

   I found this book to be informative. Where was it 3 years ago? they man I have been dating for almost 3 years gave me excuse and excuse. He knew how to get to me. Well, no more. I felt alone and confused. After reading this book, I feel I have the power and he doesn’t really have any say. I shouldn’t have to make sacrifices. I’m in charge. I have to love myself first. I’m not a convenient store when he has the time to see me. Robyn, your book is a God send. I didn’t know there are many other women like me and felt I was doing something wrong. Thanks, I feel better about myself. I deserve more and better. Until he realizes that, then I’m gonna go on with my life. When he’s ready, fine. I’ve made too many excuses for him, no more. This book made me think twice and says to love myself first. I’m first, not him. He can’t put me first so tough luck. No more waiting, I’m a free woman now. I wish I had the courage back then. I rather be alone than unhappy as he made me unhappy. NO MORE! Thanks again. To all women, you are in charge of your life, not them. Put yourself first.
   Rating: 5 / 5