Dating A Married Man: Memoirs From The “Other Women”
Dec.18, 2009 in
Dating Books
Product DescriptionHowever the two of you come across one another, it is almost going to feel like an instant attraction and a mutual recognition of “understanding each other”. This typically happens in an office setting or through other work-related activities where there is the opportunity and the setting to subtly exchange non-verbal cues which will lead to this attraction. Is this feeling real? Yes, and it’s intense! Would you feel this way if he weren’t married and appropriate fo. . . More >>
December 18th, 2009 at 10:43 am
I am no longer left wondering whether any woman out there comtemplating entering into a relationship with a married man would read this and think twice. . . . from what this book says, they probably wouldn’t do it. Does one have to go through ‘each stage’ to finally gain insight? I gained an enormous amount from reading this book.
I read this not as a ‘mistress’ – but as a wife. . . who has been betrayed recently. From my perspective the insights you wrote about were comforting and alarming too. It has given me yet more ‘food for thought’ on the subject. Thank you.
Rating: 5 / 5
December 18th, 2009 at 12:10 pm
I just ended my affair with a married man and I relate to a lot of what was in this book and how quickly I lost my power in the relationship. The book talks about the seduction process, the negotiation process and how you lose your sense of reality the deeper you go into the relationship. It was very accurate in describing how the other woman begins to change while the married man keeps his life the same. I didn’t have this awareness going in and wish that I had. I recommend it.
Rating: 5 / 5
December 18th, 2009 at 12:14 pm
This really goes into depth on the psychology of getting involved with a married man. It starts out as becoming more than friends and then goes right into the signs that an affair is beginning. It really explores how easy it is to become enslaved in an affair and not be able to see reality or pry yourself loose. It talks about the lies married men tell to themselves and to the other woman and why the other woman is so eager to believe what she wants to hear. The book also accurately describes the stage where the other woman begins to get suspicious of what he is telling her and then how she disempowers herself more and more and changes into a person that is a less confident version of her former self. This is a must read for anyone considering an affair. There are many accounts from the other women describing their experiences and how they never thought they would be trapped in an addictive cycle. What’s really accurate and startling is the fact that these married men are just comfortable with keeping two women at their beck and call and how they don’t become weak and have low self worth like the women they are manipulating. This book gives great advice on how to reverse the process and find yourself again and become self empowered and how not to lose yourself in the affair. It also gives tips on when entering an affair to avoid the trap that most women fall into when dating a married man. It also explains how easy it is for society to blame the other woman when her life is also equally as damaged by a married man who is partly responsible for the seduction and he is the one with the secret life. It describes what is going on in the married man’s head as he enters the affair and when the other woman inevitably places demands on him and how quickly she descends into despair while he keeps his pride and self esteem intact. There are no judgements against the other woman but a real message of concern and advice for keeping her power throughout the affair. A must read on a very contraversial topic!
Rating: 5 / 5