If you’ve broken up with your boyfriend and are downright distraught about the end of the relationship, you’re probably getting a lot of advice from an assortment of friends, loved ones and family members. They want you to feel better and they’re trying to do that by consoling you.

People will tell you that it happens to everyone, as if misery really does love company. They will tell you to have faith that the break up was meant to be, ignoring the fact that your heart is telling you it should continue. They’ll tell you that love is a matter of fate and that there was nothing you could or should do differently. The feeling will pass. You’ll feel better. Things will get easier. Don’t worry…

Here’s some different advice for you to consider–an idea that comes at the problem from a different perspective.

Why don’t you stop mourning the end of the relationship? Not by growing a thicker skin or by moving on, but by taking action and getting your ex boyfriend back.

That’s choice those advice-dispensers might not be throwing in your direction, but it is a viable alternative. If you feel like the two of you deserve a second chance at love and you believe that the relationship is definitely worth saving, you don’t need to wait to feel better or to accept your fate lying down. You can take action and bring your ex back into your life.

Here’s what it takes: A willingness to act, a little determination, and a good plan. If you can assemble those ingredients (and you already have the first two items), you can cook up a great strategy to bring your man back.

It happens all the time, right? Couples break up and then they make up. There’s no reason to think that your situation can’t work out that way, too. Why shouldn’t you be part of the lucky group that celebrates the survival of relationships in the face of tough times instead of surrendering in the face of a challenge? You can be in that group. You can listen to your heart instead of the cliched advice of others. You can do what it takes to get your man back.

You can do it, if that’s what you want to do. You can go out there and get your boyfriend back. Take a deep breath, stand up, dust yourself off. Now, go put your hands on a smart and proven guide that will show you a blueprint for getting your boyfriend back. Put it into place and move forward. Before you know it, you will have rebuilt your winning relationship.

Now that’s some advice worth considering!